10,000 Hours…

I sat with my parents and brother today, telling them about some goals I’ve made for myself. One thing that I want to get over is my fear of rejection, so I made it a goal to talk to 100 strangers every day. I figure this will do a few things for me:

1) Get me past the fear of approaching people for no reason and striking up a conversation

2) Allow me to learn more about how I interact with people, and especially how other people respond to what I say and/or do

3) Allow me to discover what works and doesn’t work regarding my approach and whether I can sustain a quality conversation with a stranger

There are, of course, a myriad of different results I can get from my goal, but these are the three things that immediately stand out in my mind.

So I tell my family what I want to do, and they all tell me I’m crazy. They tell me that I’m setting my goals too high, that I should set them lower so that I wont be disappointed or burned out. I could not believe they were telling me to set my goals LOWER.

My brother told me that what I want to develop can be learned… he also remarked that he read somewhere that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at something. I told him that I know that statistic as well, and I said, “Now, how can I get through the 10,000 hours as quickly as I can?”

This brought a roar of laughter from everyone, and not in a good way.

I believe I can cram 10,000 hours into a shorter period of time. They don’t. Only time will tell who is right and who is wrong.


Surround Yourself…

Today, I met with a friend I haven’t seen in almost two years. He exemplifies everything I’ve been reading and hearing about regarding successful people. He is incredibly proactive and does not seem to waste a single motion of his mind or body. I realized today that I need to hang out with him more often… and people like him.

Raising standards is not difficult. It’s breaking free from those that don’t wish to raise them with you… that’s the challenge.

Surround yourself with those that make things happen for them rather than those that let things happen to them.