I sat with my parents and brother today, telling them about some goals I’ve made for myself. One thing that I want to get over is my fear of rejection, so I made it a goal to talk to 100 strangers every day. I figure this will do a few things for me:
1) Get me past the fear of approaching people for no reason and striking up a conversation
2) Allow me to learn more about how I interact with people, and especially how other people respond to what I say and/or do
3) Allow me to discover what works and doesn’t work regarding my approach and whether I can sustain a quality conversation with a stranger
There are, of course, a myriad of different results I can get from my goal, but these are the three things that immediately stand out in my mind.
So I tell my family what I want to do, and they all tell me I’m crazy. They tell me that I’m setting my goals too high, that I should set them lower so that I wont be disappointed or burned out. I could not believe they were telling me to set my goals LOWER.
My brother told me that what I want to develop can be learned… he also remarked that he read somewhere that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at something. I told him that I know that statistic as well, and I said, “Now, how can I get through the 10,000 hours as quickly as I can?”
This brought a roar of laughter from everyone, and not in a good way.
I believe I can cram 10,000 hours into a shorter period of time. They don’t. Only time will tell who is right and who is wrong.